went a little nuts just now
stocking up on Joie Italian-made leather sandals @ RueLaLa
(I posted a full price pair just a few days ago).
The selection is vast, but going quickly!
Here are some of my favorites:
we canoodled by candlelight over delicious Mexican
(reminding us of our first trip ever as a couple to Maroma)
then cheered on our favorite jazz band The Bad Plus
(whose tunes are the nightly soundtrack to Baby Girl’s bathtime)
before nightcapping away @ the bar of our first date
(that is sadly closing in two months).
There is so much chaos in our day-to-day; so many changes on our horizon…
yet on nights like these,
time stands perfectly still.
Of all the blessings life has given me -
finding him has been the greatest.
a year ago,
my sleepwear consisted exclusively of nursing chemises;
how thankful I am today that the Babe is off the Boob (and finally sleep-trained)!
This week, another fun change -
switching out the winter flannels for sweet spring PJs.
My absolute favorite?
The Esther set from Eberjey.
Soft, comfy, sweet & a tad sexy… my perfect pajama!
(Just be sure to wash gently to prolong the life of lace. I love the Eberjey Pure Wash but the Laundress Delicate Wash works too)
Easter 2014: that time Baby Girl stole Mama’s fur vest & posed like a boss for paparazzi in front of the Tribeca Grand
Date night yesterday was awesome: Watched Bryan Cranston (Heisenberg!) kill it as LBJ on Broadway, then strolled late night to the gorgeous Faberge egg display @ Rockefeller Center. Highly recommend both!
Ten Parenting Strategies for Raising Kids Who Care
(Thoughts from Harvard family psychologist & dad Richard Weissbourd, fwded to me by my sister)
1. Instead of telling your children, “The most important thing is that you are happy,” tell them, “The most important thing is that you are kind, and that you are responsible for others.”
2. Help your children appreciate others. For instance:
- Don’t let them treat a store clerk, waitress, or babysitters as if invisible.
- Don’t let your child quit a sports team or school chorus without thinking carefully with them about what it means for the group.
- Don’t let your child simply write off friends he or she finds annoying, or fail to return phone calls from friends or to give other children credit for their achievements.
- Expect your child to help around the house, and to be helpful to neighbors.
3. Expect your children to appreciate you—their relationship with you will be a primary model for their other relationships. That doesn’t mean making yourself the focus. It means not allowing your children to treat you as a doormat, and expecting them to express some modicum of interest about major events in your life and to thank you for your generosity.
4. Don’t focus directly and narrowly on developing your child’s happiness and self-esteem. Instead, support your child’s developing maturity. Maturity, including the ability to manage destructive feelings, to balance and coordinate our needs with others, to empathize, to receive feedback constructively, to be reflective, and to adjust our behavior, is at the heart of both morality and lasting well-being.
5. While it’s important to help children understand and articulate their feelings, be wary of pointing out children’s feelings too frequently or drawing a lot of attention to passing emotional states. Doing these things can cause children to dramatize their feelings, and to make their own feelings too precious.
6. Praise your children for specific accomplishments and occasionally tell them how great they are. But avoid constant praising. When children are praised all the time, they can feel judged all the time. Children may feel patronized by unearned praise. And too much global praise—constantly saying “You’re terrific”—can make children feel that their essential value is on the line in everything they do, causing them to inflate their importance, taking either too much credit or too much blame.
7. Don’t make high achievement the goal of a life. Too much achievement pressure can diminish children’s sense of self, make them less able to care for others, and more likely to experience others primarily as competitors and threats. Make achievement one theme in the large composition of a life. Sort out your own feelings about achievement and status so you don’t send mixed messages or appear hypocritical to children, undermining your authority.
8. Help your child register kindness and unkindness, justice and injustice in the world. Listen carefully, without quickly judging, to your child’s moral questions and dilemmas. Express your own values, and connect them to your child’s experiences and interpretations.
9. Don’t seek to be your child’s friend. You can be very close to your child in many ways, but it’s vital that children experience you as an authority, that they idealize you at certain points in their development and see you as someone they want to emulate. Children come to appreciate others as independent and distinct when we appreciate them as distinct.
10. Invite people you are close to and respect to give you feedback about your parenting. When your first child is born, develop a contract with at least two other parents, a promise that they will tell you if they think you are harming your child’s moral or emotional development in any way.
Lip Balms: Best of the Best
Wintry days (like today) bring scaly, crackly lips;
here are your perfect remedies!
- Eve Lom Kiss Mix Lip Balm - hard core, leave on overnight for kissable perfection.
- Dior Addict Lip Glow Color Reviver Lip Balm - smoothes over any cracks immediately & brings out your “natural lip color.” Love the slight rosy glow & the quick fix appeal.
- Nuxe Reve de Miel Lip Balm - Best trait: mega moisturizing, but not sticky at all! Allows me to still steal smooches from Husby (v. the Eve Lom, which is super goopy but super restorative).
- Fresh Sugar Lip Treatment- love the color palette (I believe I own all of them). Great for work or play.
Neutral leathers with a stroke of metallic genius -
Hello Daily Wear.
(Both pairs on Shopbop, 25% off with code INTHEFAMILY14)
Ancient Greek Kiveli Demi Wedge Sandals (Handmade in Greece)
Wore my new J Crew espadrille flats all weekend bopping round the city with Baby Girl… Love them. 25 percent off at jcrew.com today with code FACEBOOK25.
usually abhor overalls on grownups
but if you’re gonna go there…
this is how to do it.
Photo via Fancy
madly inspired by these stunning gowns
for upcoming spring formals:
On Sex. And Women. And Sexy Women.
I wholeheartedly believe that mothers & grandmoms alike have every right to dress in outrageous ways that make them feel sexy.
Herve Leger @ 60? Botox @ 30?
If it sexes you up, then get it, girl… or grandma. Seriously.
Sexiness shan’t be a state reserved for Kate Upton; it’s a state of mind deserved by all women regardless of size, shape, or perceived beauty.
This message applies to my daughter. Once she’s all grown, I very much want her to feel sexy - no matter society’s messaging on the confines of beauty.
of paramount importance to me,
is that I raise her with tools to offer the world more, to contribute to society in a real, tangible way beyond … just sex.
And therein lies my huge, elephantine problem with the Kardashian Klan.
It’s not that they value sexiness, it’s that they’ve reduced women to
And only sex.
Their Great American Dream is that sex tapes are the key to billionairedom;
that boobjobs at 16 (Kourtney & Kylie & probably Kim?) transition girls into women.
This photo of the Kardashian matriarch encapsulates it all,
how they’ve taken the Great American Woman and reduced her to a
And this message, I hope my daughter learns quickly, does not apply to her.
5 Spring Daily Obsessions.
I frequently post my OMGs on this blog; but I admit - they’re not always the most practical…
Amazeballs - yes (obvi); but for day-to-day? Debatable.
I’m so over being weighed down by winter… by heavy coats, bulky scarves & cumbersome, multi-step makeup. To combat this season’s epic dryness, I layer thick moisturizer under foundation then splash on bronzing oil.
It’s just too much!
All I want these days is to strip down to the barest threads allowed by nature (No More Shearling, Down or Fur Please), and the same goes for makeup.
Enter the holy grail of foundation: a dewy dreamy cream that packs all I want into a single step. It’s moisturizing enough to skip the La Mer, its coverage is buildable, and the illuminating shimmer fakes a beautiful, bronzy color.
Sure sign I’m a mama? My collection of flats has exploded. These jellies are ridonkeykong comfortable and almost weightless. I scored ‘em in neon coral (on sale here for $55), but I’m totally jelly of my sister’s bronze and navy pairs (she’s the uptown to my downtown). The darker colors mask the jelly look; her pairs truly look like chic, woven city flats.
Purple eyeliner, blue mascara, pink eyeshadow…
In my twenties, I doused my face in peacock colors every single day.
Now in my thirties, the crazy nutjob face painting is reserved for 80’s theme parties; for daily wear, I’m far more interested in looking fresh & bright. On sleepless baby nights? I’ll settle for looking alive.
After a few years off exploring coral & tangerine lips, I’ve returned to an original love: FRESH lips. So perfect for work when a shocking lip is too much, and when lipgloss just feels icky. These treatments add a rosy splash of healthy color and a mega dose of moisture.
4) Dunkin Donuts Ice cream flavored ice coffees
Ice coffee that tastes like your favorite melted ice cream - need I explain why I down a large every morn?
The perfect pale pink that feels like spring!! Neutral enough to feel classy, pink enough to feel feminine, just bright enough to feel not-boring. I’m obsessed.